Finding Purpose when your Nest is Empty

For 32 years my purpose was to be a mom. To raise 6 amazing humans.

Last year at this time my youngest went off to college and I found my nest empty.

Of course I am still Mom and Mimi but not Mom and Mommy in the day to day way I was for so long.

The purpose I had for all of those years is gone. Feeling purposeless is not something I prepared for.

It honestly hasn’t been easy for me. And, the truth is I still struggle at times. As I write this I feel the emotions bubbling up…

When I found my nest first empty I would wake up feeling really sad... thinking crazy things like, why am I still here? I have done my job. What do they still need me for? They have their own families now. I have fulfilled my purpose.

When I read that out-loud I think, Sheesh... what am I 90?! Lol. But, that's how I felt and sometimes still do. It just shows how strong the purpose of being a Mom truly is. 

Ever since I was a little girl I knew I wanted to be a mom. I played mom to my dolls and held every baby I could until I became a mom myself. And, for 32 beautiful years I was full time mom to my children. It wasn't always easy but I can honestly say I loved it and it is by far my most important and rewarding purpose in life!!!

Maybe that's why it's been so hard to find a new purpose. One that feels anywhere near close to the same level. And, I have spent a lot of time in prayer and meditation asking to be guided to my new purpose. 

Here is what I have been led to...

First, to be the healthiest version of myself so I can enjoy every moment I get to spend with my beautiful family!! And, to be a blessing to them and be the very best Mom and Mimi I can be!!! And, to be healthy to see the world and travel to more beautiful places and maybe even add a significant other to travel with at some point 😉

And, spending as much time with my family as possible needs to become a priority. This past weekend I went to visit Jack (#5 if you're counting lol) in San Diego. He was always my little buddy. Always, the entertainer. Making us all laugh. And now he is also my friend. And, I now realize how beautiful it is to have friendships with my grown children. These friendships were cultivated with the active time we spent together as they were growing up. Such an amazing and beautiful blessing!!

This leads to my ultimate purpose at this point in my life which is to help other women in all stages of life become the healthiest version of themselves so that they can bless their families and the world with their own purpose and passions. Amen. 

I am putting all my love and passion for women and Moms into my health coaching!!! 

Some of you may already have an empty nest, some may be getting close and some of you may be so many years away you can't even imagine!

Please know that...
I feel you, I was you and I am you!!

Do you need help finding your purpose?

LOVE YOU,

Kate